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An Unrealistic Search for the Perfect Soul Mate

In his book, This Is Our Time Trevin Wax relates the following story:

In his provocative book Modern Romance, the actor and comedian Aziz Ansari describes watching his friend Derek search for a date on OKCupid, an app designed to help people find that perfect date:
Derek got on OKCupid and let us watch as he went through his options. These were women whom OKCupid had selected as potential matches for him based on his profile and the site's algorithm. The first woman he clicked on was beautiful with a witty profile page, a good job, and lots of shared interests, including a love of sports. After looking the page over for a minute or so, Derek said, "Well, she looks okay. I'm just gonna keep looking for a while." I asked what was wrong and he replied, "She likes the Red Sox."
I was completely shocked. I couldn't believe how quickly he had moved on. Imagine the Derek of twenty years ago finding out that this beautiful, charming woman was a real possibility for a date. The Derek of 1993 wouldn't have walked up and said, "Oh, wait, you like the Red Sox?! But Derek of 2013 simply clicked an X on a web-browser tab and deleted her without thinking twice.
Christian authors Tim and Kathy Keller point out what's wrong with this unsatisfying search for the perfect soul mate. "We are looking for someone who accepts us as we are and fulfills our desires," they write, "and this creates an unrealistic set of expectations that frustrates both the searchers and the searched for … [The Bible's view of marriage involves] two flawed people coming together to create a space of stability, love, and consolation. … But a marriage based not on self-denial but on self-fulfillment will require a low—or no—maintenance partner who meets your needs while making almost no claims on you. Simply put—today people are asking far too much in the marriage partner."

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