To be unconsciously incompetent is far from blissful ignorance. In fact, when I think about areas of my life where I don't know and don't know that I don't know, it sends a chill down my spine. This is maleness at its most dangerous, nuclear-holocaust level. This is maleness that damages and doesn't even know it. This is maleness that is abusive and violent and arrogant and fallen. The rude awakening, men, is this: this is what we come by naturally.