"Sexual preference" may be the least judgmental words ever created. "Sexually active" are two others. One might inquire of a sexually active person, "What's the difference between being 'sexually active' and what my mother used to call a 'fornicator?' " Fornication is defined as "human sexual intercourse other than between a man and his wife, or sexual intercourse between a spouse and an unmarried person." Isn't this what we mean by "sexually active"? Then why not say so?